Your relationship with TIME
Imagine scheduling a doctors appointment. The doctor says they are flexible and are free Monday to Friday 8am-10pm. What happens next? You probably internally start thinking of your own time, other priorities and DE-prioritize that doctors appointment since the doctor is so flexible.
This is why your love life is being de-prioritized by others / the avoidant / your ex
There is a difference between HAVING time and MAKING time. People want to feel you are MAKING time for them and the relationship
This is why the beginning feels so great. We dont know how the other person spends their time, so being on a date feels like time was made for such. As we get to know each other and live with each other, we start to really see each others relationship with time, and as those other areas such as work become ingrained in the relationship too, we tend to allow the relationship to be something we do when we have the time for it between work and kids …and stop feeling the need to make time for it. Why make time for something that seems to always be there in all the in between moments?
Your biggest ally to your relationship is your calendar. Start to value your time and make time for that which is important and start communicating such. Start having a “let me.check my schedule and get back to you” mentality…. and the people who you see will know and feel you made time for them.
Make time for people and they will make time for you.
Have time for people…. and they may OR MAY NOT have time for you. It depends on what else they have going on.
If you don’t prioritize you, no one else will
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