I post this here cause i believe its important.

Notice the notification from Snapchat.? This can drive a wedge in relationships

It LOOKS like some attractive girl is sending ME a message that says “i love you” (photo #1)

But the “I love You” ….is the name of todays new snapchat filter that smooths skin, adds blush and lipstick. (Photo #2)

Therefore its very possible that NO, your boyfriend isn’t cheating on you or even thinking about it. Someone can love someone, want to understand why that person might feel cautious but also feel its not something they should take accountability for.

This is the situation “im sorry you feel that way” gets said by people. It is the easy go to in the moment. I am learning better approaches like “its understandable you feel that way. Like a bruise thats still healing, pressure on it hurts. What can i do to help?”..BUT its hard to be that elegant in the moment

I apologize to those I have said “im sorry you feel that way” to. I was not looking to dismiss or invalidate their feelings.

I am re-learning what the word “responsible” means. I USE to think it was about fault or blame but its not.

Being responsible is a response-ABILITY….it means you are trusted to respond to situations appropriately. Being in a relationship means someone is being vulnerable and trusting you with the response-ability to help them grow.

“im sorry you feel that way” says you do not want or don’t have the response-ability needed 😦

TikTok